Self & Health
How Can You Make Motivation Last?
“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.”
I am a Dentist/turned Motivational Speaker, and for the last three years I’ve been on stages sharing my story, motivating people to believe in themselves, get out of their comfort zone and have the courage to lead the life they’ve always wanted. It is all very exciting and I truly feel the value my audience is getting, but here’s the thing: I’ve noticed a pattern that happens after each talk I give.
The people who come to hear me giving a motivational talk, later come up and thank me immensely for the wakeup call I’d given them. They leave the room energised, optimistic and determined that they, too, can change their lives for the better. They then walk out the building and drive back home; to the same family, the same friends, the same jobs. Their spirits and motivation are high to start with, but the buzz quickly fizzles away when they find that they are the only ones in their circles actively trying to change something in their lives.
I’ve seen this pattern way too many times; I’ve even experienced it myself when I attend big events. I experienced what Zig Ziglar meant about the need of having frequent doses of motivation in your life. It’s not enough to keep attending workshops all the time though, this is not where I’m going with this. But to rather be mindful of the habits you take on board and change after having been motivated, and choose consciously the people you connect with.
“Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.” Jim Rohn
Many people don’t even believe the possibility of their lives turning better or don’t even feel they deserve a truly happy and fulfilling life. In these situation, a motivational talk could really impact someone’s life. Yet, if you truly want to help transform someone’s life, you need to also provide them with the tools and the knowledge that they can take with them after the talk has finished, so that their motivated energy has a more long lasting effect. This is the reason why I have transformed my talks into Workshops. In this longer format, I have the time to go through exercises and guide the attendees to conclusions about their current view of the world, and the attendees have the time to explore their own motives, re-evaluate their lives and be mindful as to what they want their lives to look like from now on. Furthermore, they leave with a workbook that serves as a reminder of the habits they need to keep in their daily lives in order to see progress and improvement. Even so, a workbook is not enough still. To remain motivated, the most important factor is to make sure your surroundings work in your favour. In other words, you need to make sure you also “elevate” your peer group, the people you spend the most time with.
“You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” Jim Rohn
The key to lasting motivation is to make sure you surround yourselves with the people who have the life you want for yourself.
“When you have a million dollar vision, don’t surround yourself with 1 cent minds.”
Find and seek out those people who challenge your thinking of the world, who have the same purpose as you do, who want to achieve what you want to achieve. You might need to make some room in your life for new connections and perhaps reduce contact with the naysayers; that’s ok. But this last element, your peer group, is the most important key to lasting motivation that can bring your life to another level.
Dr Memnia Theodorou
Who is Memnia Theodorou?
Memnia was born in Larnaca, Cyprus, where her love for the sea began. At 18, she left Cyprus to go to Thessaloniki, Greece, where she pursued Dentistry at Aristotle University. Memnia built her dental career in London, England for the past 10 years, with a special interest in Aesthetic Dentistry and Facial Aesthetics. She worked as an assistant dentist in a clinic outside London, alongside 5 other dentists, having multiple responsibilities under her wing. She continuously improved her skills by attending multiple courses and completed yearly certificates, including a Certificate in Aesthetic Dentistry from King’s College (London), an Implant Certificate from Tatum Clinic (Birmingham) and a Certificate in Restorative Dentistry from The North of England Dental Academy (Leeds)
In need of a break from her career and an adventure, she signed up to take part in an international sailing race, called Clipper Round the World Yacht Race. The ultimate purpose of the race is for the 12 identical boats, manned by amateur sailors and led by professional skippers, to complete a circumnavigation of the earth, going through some of the most treacherous weather systems and isolated areas of the planet, in 11 months. The company trains the ambitious sailors prior to departure through a mandatory vigorous training program.
Memnia only had limited sailing knowledge prior to the race and had never been out at sea for more than a few hours. For that reason she had originally only signed up for the first leg of the race, crossing the Atlantic, travelling from London to Rio de Janeiro (28 day at sea). During the crossing, she fell in love with the sport and the sea, so she carried on signing up for more legs. She continued sailing through some of the most treacherous weather systems and isolated areas of the planet, facing not only the extremes of weather, from boiling to freezing temperatures, but also life threatening situations. She sailed to Cape Town, Albany, Sydney, Hobart, till she reached her final destination, Airlie Beach, Australia 5 months later.